She has no hands left. Her wrists, swathed in thick bandages, end in stumps.What could lead a man to inflict such a wound on his on wife?
Mwende, of Machakos, 35 miles southeast Nairobi Kenya, is
the face of domestic violence in Kenya. Her husband has been charged in
an alleged marital assault that shocked the nation. According to Mwende,
her husband, Stephen Ngila, 35, attacked her with a machete, slashing
her face and hacking off her hands, enraged because she hadn’t produced
children in nearly five years of marriage.
“I saw him, and he told me: ‘Today is your last day,’” she says. “I never thought something like this would happen to me.”
Ngila
is in police custody, awaiting trial over the attack. Members of his
family told Kenyan media recently that Mwende was a woman of loose
morals who may have been attacked by a business rival. They claim Ngila
wasn’t at home when the attack happened.
Wearing a white hospital gown at Presbyterian Church of East Africa
Kikuyu Hospital, Mwende, 27, weeps softly as she tells the story of how
she fell in love with Ngila, married him in a white church wedding and
watched as the relationship gradually went sour.
Women in many developing countries, including
those in East Africa, face social stigma if they don’t produce at least
one child, according to the World Health Organization. Although a
husband’s infertility may be to blame, it is usually the woman who is
stigmatized.
In 2014, Mwende and her husband sought medical advice
at a Nairobi hospital on why they hadn’t had children, “and he found
out that he had a problem,” she said. “So the doctor advised him to
attend the clinic, but he never went. Every time I reminded him to
attend the clinic, he would dismiss it. He would say, ‘I will see if I
will get time to go,’ then he would never go.”
A sour seed had been planted in the marriage and it grew, Mwende
said. “It reached a point that he suddenly changed. He started to get
drunk.
“That man never used to bring anything home. He was very
brutal. He used to beat me.” At times the couple would call their
parents, who would come and try to bring peace to the marriage.
Her
impoverished parents advised Mwende to leave Ngila, but she didn’t want
to go back home to burden them. She sought advice from her pastor, who
advised her to persist and to do her best to save the marriage.
“In
most cases, every time there was a problem, I would run to our pastor,”
she said. “The pastor would always tell me, ‘Jackie, please persevere.
That man will come to change one day.’ The pastor and the church elders
would just encourage us.
"I always wanted to protect my marriage
so I decided to stay with him,” she said. “I always hoped he would
change, but he seemed not to heed the advice from our church pastor."
When
the attack happened in late July, neighbors heard screaming and called
the police. One neighbor told local media how she witnessed the rooms
spattered in blood, with a severed hand on the floor. Mwende’s other
hand was almost completely detached and couldn’t be saved.
Mwende’s
case sparked national outrage. The local government authority promised a
monthly stipend for a year and free transport to the hospital when she
needs it for medical care. Several corporate sponsors pledged to help
Mwende get access to prosthetic limbs to enable her to live and work
independently.
Mwende, grateful for the help, is still recovering from the trauma of the attack.
“He thought he had killed me, but God is great,” she said.


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